Long story-short, I was reading an article about what Men Really Want in a relationship. But the problem was it was written by a woman and didn’t really resonate with me. A few nights later some guy friends and I started talking about it and came to the general consensus that she was right some of the time and also wrong.
It seemed like a good time for a little research so I took mental notes of what was said. So here now is a modified version of that topic, but with the input of 5 men (2 married, 1 with a girlfriend, and 2 singles) basically think they want in a relationship.
What We Want
- Low Maintenance – This was an across the board pick. Not to say we do not want girls to not look good, but we don’t want them to spend forever getting ready. We are more than willing to help do things, but we do not want to be expected to do everything for you. Partner does not equal slave or care-giver (or eternal purse holder).
- Gentle and Kind – If we wanted rough and manly then we would just hang out with each other. All of us agreed that sensitive, gentle, and caring means someone who will love us the way we want to be loved.
- Attractive - This is a broad range answer but the bottom line is we want someone who takes pride in how they look and is confident about themselves. Other than that it varies as to what we all find attractive as we have different types.
- A Challenge – We want someone who pushes us a little to do more in life. This isn’t someone who nags or complains but a partner who wants to try new stuff and keep us from forming ruts.
- Adventurous in Bed – A woman who knows what she wants in the bedroom and sometimes wants to try new things for more excitement is flat out awesome. Most of us are rather tame and shy but want a more outgoing girl in that area.
- Funny - You don’t have to be a standup comic, but we all agreed a woman who laughs and likes silly humor is just more fun.
- Supportive – 3 of us said we want a woman who has our back and will support us when we need her. 2 of us said they don’t want a woman who just criticizes us.
What We Don’t Want
- Angry Women – People who are tense, shout, and get frustrated really easily are a no-go no matter how pretty they are.
- Untrustworthy – Someone who could stab us in the back or break our heart is out of the running.
- Being Alone – Bottom line we like to have someone with us and usually will put up with a lot if we think that person is worth it.
Really it is not a big list. I am sure guys in different phases will have different wants. But these are the things me and my friends all agreed on for likes and dislikes when looking for a woman for the long term.
